Book Review - Happier At Home

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As I mentioned in an earlier post, I’ve been reading more about happiness lately and trying to put into practice some of the things I’m learning. I recently finished the book Happier At Home by Gretchen Rubin and I’m looking forward to reading some of her other books on the subject. I liked the approach of Happier At Home where she dedicated each month to a specific aspect of life to focus on improving her happiness.

She began in September which sounds odd except that she has two school age daughters. Like most parents, watching your kids go off to school each fall feels a lot more like a new stage in life than January 1st ever does.

The topics Gretchen chose for this project were:

Month	Focus
September	Possessions
October	Marriage
November	Parenthood
December	Interior Design
January	Time
February	Body
March	Family
April	Neighborhood
May	Now

As she goes through each month, she echoes a lot of the lessons learned in her earlier book, The Happiness Project. I admit I wish I would have read that first but it’s not absolutely necessary. She reviews many of those lessons and what she calls “The Eight Splendid Truths” about happiness whenever they apply. There is also a section at the end of the book listing them all together in more detail.

Two of my favorites were truth number 3 and 6. They are great words to live by.

• "The days are long, but the years are short"
  - Parents especially can relate to this as we watch our kids grow up. There are days when I can’t wait for them to grow up and get out of my house. Then there are times when I wonder where the hell the time went. How did they get so big?
• "The only person I can change is myself"
  - This is a good one to remind us that we cannot make others be anyone except who they are. We cannot make someone else suddenly be organized by developing an organization system for them. The best way to get them to change is to change yourself first. Model the behavior you want to see and learn to accept others for who they are. If they make changes, that’s a bonus.

A few other nuggets I pulled from Happier At Home were ideas she had like celebrating holiday breakfasts with your family. Some holidays like Valentine’s Day are difficult to celebrate as a family but she realized they generally were all together at breakfast. She went all out for fancy breakfasts with decorations for several holidays. That doesn’t work for everyone but it’s a cool idea.

I wouldn’t say I’m necessarily a happier person after reading the book but Gretchen definitely lays out a lot of ideas for you to think about. Remember, I write these posts as much for myself as I do for others. I know darn well I need to keep reminding myself of the two Truths above when I get so frustrated with my kids. It’s a process, maybe you could call it a journey even, but I don’t think happiness is necessarily a destination. It takes work and positive thinking.

There will always be good and bad times, and different aspects of your life to focus on. The monthly topics listed above may not be the same topics you or I would choose to focus on right now, but in a section at the end, she encourages everyone to embark on their own unique happiness project.

Good luck with yours.

I would encourage you take a look at her website, Gretchen has lots of additional resources to help you out including a podcast.

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